There is a huge difference between being comfortable and stuck. When I started my fitness journey, I was really unhappy with where I was. Then over the course of the next year and a half, I slowly but surely moved into a place that I was really proud to be in. I started being able to shop in whatever store I wanted, getting compliments from people I had known for years, and I finally was getting the results that I worked so hard to get. I mean, losing 70 pounds completely changes you; mentally and physically.
For the past couple of months, I have been comfortable. I eat healthy, drink the water I’m supposed to, and hit the gym a few times a week. I also am not afraid to indulge myself once in a while and I don’t spend hours beating myself up if I miss a trip to the gym. Travelling for work has also been an added challenge as I have had brand new restaurants I wanted to try and for some reason the state of Kentucky doesn’t have Gold’s Gyms (insert eye roll). Kentucky does have a lot of good food and I have made it a point to try most of it (excuse, all of it).
I have thoroughly enjoyed every minute of the past couple of months. I have spent a good amount of the time celebrating my victories, on and off the scale. Most importantly, I have proved to myself that I really understand what goes into a sustainable maintenance lifestyle and the importance of finding a balance that works for me.
But… I have, yet again, moved to a new part in my journey. I feel stuck. I’m not seeing new results (and no before anyone suggests a plateau, I’ve just gotten lazy), I’ve gotten too relaxed with my eating and I am just overall not challenging myself anymore. I feel stuck and I refuse to let that be a word used to describe me. So, back to moving I go.
Hitting the Reset Button
I would daresay at some point during your life, you have set a goal and reached it. Even if you never quite got to where you wanted to be, I am fairly confident that you at least started the process and saw some results. It’s okay to get comfortable/stuck and have to hit the reset button. That is exactly what I am choosing to do. I am looking forward to challenging myself again, even though I know it is going to suck. But I have survived (and thrived, if I say so myself) before.
We have already discussed goals, but just ensure that whatever you are pushing for is something that you want. Unless it’s a goal at work and then you’re on your own with that one, kid. Your boss will ever so politely set those for you. Anyways, your personal goals need to be just for you. When you begin to do things for you, it just continues to create a culture within yourself of power and self-love. And just like the most important Word you’ll read says, “Do everything in love.” So wouldn’t you want to live your own life in love?
Your Goals Should Be:
- Attainable & Realistic. You’re not going to drop 70 pounds in a week. That’s not realistic and you don’t get to be mad at the end of it and drown your sorrows in a bag of chips. Your goals
- Trackable. It’s hard to keep track of anything if you aren’t actually able to track it. Take measurements. Write down how you are mentally feeling. Note when you start to see a difference in your clothes. Take pictures. Whatever you do, just keep up with it.
- You can choose more subtle ways to track. For example, I didn’t take any photos of my body to document progress. It wasn’t good for me mentally, so I chose not to do. For some, that is the biggest motivator.
- Adaptable. Your goals are not concrete. It’s okay to make adjustments to fit better for what you ultimately want. It’s also okay to just completely change what you want or if you change your mind. Key word: YOU. Stop letting people step all over what you want and rearrange your goals accordingly. This is coming from someone who was told they couldn’t reach their goals…. boop, guess what happened? I did. You can too.
Now it’s time to actually put the goals into action and start working towards them. Whether you are just beginning or restarting or resetting or just re-doing the whole thing, I think it’s always nice to have a reminder that you can do it. Even if you are scared, you are capable.
You have to be able to hold yourself accountable. You have to have some kind of desire to reach your goals and do what it takes to make it happen. One way to hold yourself accountable is to physically write down your goals. Put them on the fridge or on your bathroom mirror. My coworkers and I are going to post our goals on a column by our desks that we see multiple times a day. I’m going to put my new goals up in my room. It’s not about guilting yourself into doing it, but it’s a nice reminder and a promise that you’re making to yourself.
Finding an accountability partner also really helps. An accountability partner isn’t just someone who is supportive, this should be someone who is also working towards a goal. So on the days when you really want to skip the gym, they encourage you to go. And on the days that it’s been really hard and you just want to eat some ice cream, they grab an extra spoon. It’s nice to have someone in your corner rooting for you while you can root for them at the same time.
If you feel like you need someone to hold you accountable, I would be more than happy to be that for you. The whole reason that I started this blog was to share my story, get some laughs, and ultimately help people. I know, sooooo cheesy. You’ve made it to the end of the post… so for that, I applaud you. If you feel like you need someone in your corner to cheer you on (even if we don’t live in the same place), I would love to be that person for you. This isn’t some blogger gimmick and I don’t want to be your cheerleader for $20 a month. I just want you to feel the strength that comes when two people choose to empower each other. If that’s you, please reach out. Let’s do it together.