I have exhausted all of my Game of Thrones references in the title, so if that’s what you’ve come here for, I’m sorry to have misled you. Winter is, as a matter of fact, coming. And what comes along with winter? Holidays.
If there is one thing in this entire world that I love it is the holiday season. Emphasis on Christmas. All of the other holidays are just a pregame to Christmas. But, I will be respectful of all the other holiday lovers out there (just know that you’re wrong). The holidays are a perfect time to reflect on the last year, get a mindset for your upcoming goals and be thankful for all of the amazing things that you have all while being surrounding by family and friends. But… I know I am not alone when I say that the holidays can be really stressful.
There’s a lot of pressure. Are you single? Still trying to graduate from college? Not particularly at a job that you want/love? Maybe you packed on a couple of pounds? Broke? Tired? Struggling with a bad haircut? You’re aware of whatever you have going on and now you have the faces of all the people you love the most staring back at you. Or maybe some of them aren’t the ones you love the most, but they happen to be the most vocal. Go figure.
As we move into the holiday season I hope that you choose to be more mindful. You are enough. You were enough before you went home for the holidays. You are enough even if you have to show up to the family lunch alone. You’ll still be enough after you eat three plates full of food. You know all of these things to be true, but I hope you keep that in mind over the holiday season if you begin to feel anything less than that. It’s hard to remember to do that sometimes, so I’m gonna hold you to it.
So, in my typical fashion, here are a couple of mindful reminders to get you through the season!
- It is not The Last Supper…
- This goes out to all of my people who have nutritional goals or who are trying to make better food choices throughout the holiday season.
- Thanksgiving is not the last time you are going to get to eat. Just try to be more mindful. Treat yo’ self. But maybe only have three desserts instead of five? I feel like Thanksgiving kicks off the most ridiculous spiral of eating choices and you think you’re just sitting down for one meal but then it’s all of a sudden a week later and you wake up from a black-out and you’ve eaten everything in sight for days on end. Thanksgiving is one day. So try to keep your bad choices wrapped into that day. Or maybe just extend it through the weekend.
- Once the holiday has wrapped up (no pun intended because then it is really Christmas time), you are going to wake up from that food coma and feel guilty. Making small, subtle choices can help to get you back to the swing of things and back to your normal routine.
- Just for the record, I’m not suggesting you throw in the towel completely, this is a time to indulge yourself, so celebrate accordingly.
- Shoutout to my single people
- It is a common thread for people to come out of the woodworks with this around the holidays. Coming from a fellow member of the club, I got you. I hear you. I feel it too. I’ll be right there with you this season.
- It’s hard to keep it in perspective when you’re surrounded by happy couples celebrating the love that they have for each other… but, instead I choose to be mindful of all the things that I have done myself over the last year. The holidays aren’t absent of love just because you are single. It just gives you an extra opportunity to love on yourself.
- Just a note: Why do people consider it the perfect time to ask if you have found a special friend… WHY. and why do adults try to be subtle and call someone your special friend?
- Set traditions for yourself!
- I’m sure that some of you have traditions that your family has done for years and years. All of the women in my family go on a big shopping trip on Black Friday. Except we do a lot more eating than actually shopping. We also used to all play a football game on Thanksgiving Day in the yard. Kickball is involved. They’re some of my favorite traditions in the world.
- There are a lot of traditions that stress me out. Everyone fussing in the kitchen. There’s a lot of love, but it’s still fussing. Traveling is difficult and traffic is ridiculous. Traveling with a pet (whom weighs 75 pounds is even more difficult).
- If there is one thing in life that I swear by, it is balance. Everything isn’t always going to be rainbows and butterflies, just like everything isn’t going to be thunder and lightning. Finding balance during the holidays is hard, but one way that I do that is to create my own traditions. Be mindful of the things that make you happy.
- My roommate and I decorate our house together every year, just us. The Grinch plays in the background and it is a relaxed time to make our house look great. She decorates the tree and I put out the other stuff in the house. No stress. Just happy. And it’s been like that for the last six years. Find your own traditions whether with friends or by yourself.
- Remember the Reason
- Stay mindful of the reason for all of the holiday shenanigans. It’s not about the new outfit during family Thanksgiving. Or all of the presents that you can buy on Friday. It’s all about remembering to have a grateful heart and a time for giving thanks. The year is coming to a close (which seems crazy!!) and a brand new year full of new surprising and adventures is waiting just around the corner. So, when you feel like you’re too caught up in the moment or too overwhelmed to stop and actually enjoy it, just remember all of the things that you have to be thankful for.
Well, we have about 48 hours until the first holiday of the season hits and after that we will be caught in the whirlwind of snowflakes and Santa Clauses. Gift wraps and shopping lists. But I hope you keep in mind, through all the tinsel and mistletoe, that you are still just as important as you were the day before. Here’s to the holidays, y’all!