The 4 F’s of Gettin’ Fit: FUN

It seems crazy that the last four weeks have gone by so quickly! Shout-out to those of you that are still sticking around and reading along with me. I am trying to rack my brain and see if I captured everything about the start of my journey. I know there are probably some gaps missing, but I hope in some way I have motivated you to go after your own goals and start working towards what you want. The last stop on our four-week series is all about having fun! And let’s be real, what else is better than that?

I think a huge reason why I put off doing what I knew needed to be done for so long was because I did not (under any circumstances) want to miss out on the fun. I just felt like going on a “diet” was basically a death sentence for my social life. And if there is one thing I refuse to do, it is to not have fun. I mean “Fun” is my middle name.


I’m Riding S-O-L-O 

You will experience a part of your journey that is all about you. I’ve told you this before and I’ll tell you again… it is okay to be selfish sometimes. Sometimes loving yourself means that you have to be a little selfish. Just don’t let it go to your head. You’re gonna have to go workout alone sometimes, there will be days where everyone else is eating chicken fingers while you try to choke down a salad, and you have to face all of the mental challenges that come along with it. But, at the end of the day, you have to know you are strong enough to do it and there are going to be plenty of days full of fun in the future. Don’t let ten minutes of not awesome keep you from reaching your goals.

I hate to tell you this, but people who are not on a diet or trying to be healthier, do not give two scoots about your diet. They just don’t… and I mean why would they? It’s like the scene from “How to Lose a Guy in 10 days” when Andie Anderson calls Benny Boo Boo Boo to tell him all about what she had to eat that day. It’s crazy ex-girlfriend style and no one wants to hear it. (Shameless plug for all of my people who let me tell them everything I ate that day. Y’all rock.) This is one of those times that it is internally important for you to find your own fun. Find a way to make meal prepping fun and do workouts that make you happy. If you feel like you are all alone, you aren’t. And if you’re still struggling to tell yourself that, find the fun in what you’re doing, and I promise that will help you embrace the journey.

Some of the most fun that I have had through this whole experience has been through social media. And shopping. There is nothing better than getting to buy new clothes that are six sizes smaller. But anyways, back to social media… Instagram is crawling with people who can make it all feel a little less like you are doing it alone. You can track hashtags and follow accounts of people who are all dream-chasing the exact same thing that you are. I have a ton of accounts that I follow and have kept up with from the start. These people share workouts, healthy recipes, stuff about their family, and even the days where they feel like they can’t do it anymore. It builds up a community with people that you don’t even know, but you begin to rely on them. I really recommend that you cloud your feed with these types of accounts whenever you begin your journey. They help with accountability and they can help keep you in the loop with new things going on in the community that you are a part of.

I Wanna Dance with Somebody 


Let me tell you if there is one thing that I love to do it is to dance. I will dance to just about anything, just about anywhere, with just about anybody. Sometimes there is just nothing better than getting all dressed up with your best gal pals and shaking your booty for a few hours. It’s usually followed up by Taco Bell which might make the whole affair a little more pleasant, but those are just minor details.

What’s just about everyone’s favorite thing to do before they go out? It just so happens to be one of the most common questions that I get asked. “What do you drink?” I’m sure you’re not shocked to know that they aren’t referring to the 120 ounces of water a day that I try to drink. Drinking alcohol is going to slow down your progress. Drinking pretty regularly is going to make your progress almost non-existent. My first piece of advice if you feel like your alcohol consumption is an issue with your weight loss, cut back on what you are drinking. Maybe only save a drink for the weekend when you are out with friends or watching the football game. It can help keep your body on track (because alcohol is basically poisoning your organs…but that’s a conversation for another day) and it can help to motivate you throughout the week to push on through until the weekend’s mini celebration. Some suggestions I can make as far as beverages would be a light beer, whiskey with diet coke, or vodka water with a lime. The copious amounts of wine, full-flavor heavy beers, margaritas, and all the crazy fruity drinks with ridiculous names have more calories than you could even imagine. You might as well crack open a cold one and eat a whole pizza and a bag of chips. At least make a whole evening out of it.

You may be curious why I bring up adult beverages in lieu of fun, but once you go to college or anything after that, adults automatically equate drinking and a good time. I can’t say that they’re wrong. But, there are definitely better choices to be made while you are out. If you hit a plateau, cutting these out altogether can really help to jump start your body. Getting rid of this also reducing a huge amount of bloat, even if you don’t notice the scale going down. You don’t have to cut out everything that you think is fun, but start thinking of smarter choices and ways that you can make it healthier for your body. Ya’ll know I love to give a good challenge, so this week I would like to challenge those of you that think you can’t have a good time without a drink. I challenge you to find something else that brings you joy or that you think is fun and try to fit it into your schedule at least once a week. It might help to move the party a little further down on your priority list or give you a better perspective on what’s important.


Ugh. FOMO. Such an ugly beast. For those of you who aren’t aware, FOMO is the fear of missing out. It’s that little bug in your ear that gets you out of bed and says you’re gonna miss out on the greatest party of your life if you don’t go. It’s that little devil on your shoulder that says people are going to think you’re lame if you aren’t out at the local watering hole every Friday night. FOMO is what makes you think a lifestyle change is putting a gravestone on your social life. Sometimes you’re just going to have to miss out. That’s life. You aren’t going to be able to make it to every party or group gathering and also find time to get sleep, go to the gym, make it to work on time, and cook dinner. That turns into hungover, late to work, eating Arby’s and napping in the middle of the day. I really struggled with feeling left out and it’s still a fight that I have to fight from time to time. But, as I started to take care of me, I began to realize that sometimes I didn’t care to miss out on some stuff. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still very much a social butterfly, but I realize I don’t have to make an appearance at everything.

Everyone knows those parties or nights out where you drag yourself to get ready and when you actually get where you are going, it’s just plain boring. You and all your friends just stand around and stare at each other wondering why you even got out of bed in the first place. Things like this are a great time to repurpose your fun. Find another activity that you know is going to be fun every time you do it. Like yoga in the living room floor with all your best friends.


Or… crazy idea… just SLEEP. Go to bed a little bit earlier and get rested for the upcoming week or whatever you have planned for tomorrow. I promise you are much more likely to make it to the gym or go on a hike with friends if you aren’t hungover. Sleep is so important for your body. Depriving it of the sleep that it needs will slow your progress down. Your body just gets stuck in a stagnant state and can’t lose weight or replenish itself at all. I ran on about four hours of sleep a night for about two years. I was like a walking zombie and I was starving all of the time because of my terrible sleep schedule. Now, I gt worked up if I’m not ready for bed by 10pm. Take time for you and just rest. Recharge and get ready to tackle the next goal.

Sometimes Fun Isn’t Healthy 

You just gotta go have fun. And that’s okay. There are going to be days where you drink all the beverages, and eat all the food, and stay up all night, and don’t do a single thing more than lift that French Fry to your mouth. Give yourself a break. I have said something along these lines during every post in this series because I hope you realize how important it is. How many of you have been on a diet and made one mistake and just said screw it? I know I have. You have to be forgiving with yourself. If having fun to you means eating something really unhealthy (aka me on Friday’s with Taco Bell) then just go and do what makes you happy. Just remember that doing that one time doesn’t mess up all your progress and isn’t a free ticket to go wild from that point on.

And that’s a wrap. I hope these last four weeks you have gotten to know me a little better and that I have challenged you to get to know yourself. It has been amazing to connect with so many of you and hear your stories. To those of you that have reached out to me for advice and those of you that read without me knowing, I hope you realize your worth and capability to go out there and reach your goals. I can’t wait to see where this journey takes you.


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  1. Laura

    I’m just so proud of you Toby for going on this journey and being open and vulnerable enough to open up about it and share all of these great tips! You’re truly inspiring.

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